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I would like to initially cover sensitive health care issues.
In the course of my life almost all of the topics I want to open up for discussion have at one point or another crossed my path either directly or indirectly. Often silence and denial prevents us from getting the help we need. Many of these issues can not be fixed with a pill or an operation and diagnosis, which means admission to the Elephant in the Room which is the most difficult hurdle to overcome. Some of these issues test our morals, values and beliefs. This in turn can have a negative impact on the support to the person in need. We will all at some point and time have health issues. One thing is for sure we all have one thing in common, "a human body". For the most part we all have all the same pieces and parts that commonly work together.
So keeping that in mind, it is my hope that a sharing of experience, knowledge, and wisdom will help to make this site a successful work in progress and at some point be helpful to one and all.
I feel compelled to share an experience that I went through that led to an extraordinary journey that has shaped the person I am today. My journey will continue for the rest of my days now and that is OK....
ReplyDeleteOver the course of the past 5 years I found myself in a situation that turned my world upside down. I am a problem solver and if I don't have answers I find them. My role as a responsible caregiver feeds my inner strength to do whatever I have to do to make everything wrong-right. This situation however was different. I did not want to share what I was going through with anyone, leaving me minimal options for direction. I had no idea what tools I needed, let alone, where to get them or how to use them should I acquire them. Where does all of this take me?
To a world I never thought that "I" would be a part of. It was a slow crawl out of the hole I had fallen in, but that's OK...
This was a healing world. By this time I was being eaten alive by mental and emotional anguish, despair, and was feeling very alone in my world. I now had help, answers, guidance, direction, and most importantly my personal faith I had lost. I wasn't with my friends that made me feel comfortable and who knew and understood me, but with strangers, people who I would of never thought before I was in this situation I would be around, know or care to understand. What did I learn?
So much. These people, were just like me, with heart wrenching stories. The strength and determination of this group around me was remarkable. I asked myself why did they submit themselves to these circumstances when they could just leave? And then it dawned on me, the answer was right beside me. What I thought was bad in my world suddenly seemed very small. It was only in the unselfish sharing of others very private, helpless, vulnerable worlds that I had gained a strength that I could of never obtained personally.
This scenario speaks volumes. It was like a little strong machined zapped strength into my body.
The power we have in just sharing our own powerless moments, situations, and for some everyday life, has steroidic affects. It is what we as humans are born with, "relating". Once it is accepted, it is a very humbling satisfaction, a starting point if nothing else, and a common denominator for all. For me, a sense of hope to move forward to a better place.
Despite the circumstances that brought this group of angelic people together at this place, at this time, and with me to rally common challenges, I have to say that it was the most gratifying, humbling, therapeutic, experience of my life. It wasn't about a restoration of faith in humanity, this "is" who we are, and what we do when the tools are there to help
Thank you for sharing. This is exactly the kind of experience that will hopefully help someone that hesitates participating in discussions, to open up and express challenges they are having. And yes, more often than not the victim is the person trying to help. Again, thank you for this comment. You are not alone in your journey.
ReplyDeleteThis is my first blog, hopefully there will be many more: I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia in 2002. With many other health issues it's difficult to tell where my pain is coming from and what's causing it from day to day. I take Meloxicam, an anti inflammatory and Neurontin for this condition. I'm on several other meds for bipolar disorder, RLS, and a herniated disc, to name a few. I'm currently working full time, but at age 59, my body is getting tired. Hoping to go on disability soon. My pain is worse in the morning, after a usually fitful nights' sleep. I'm going to a pain management facility in a few weeks to check out other options.
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